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confused Hi guys...
If you are just skimming over your friend's page, please read this entry. I need advice. Badly. Half of me want to move, half of me doesnt. And both halves feel very strongly about the subject... I have been weighing the pros and cons in my head over and over, but I think its time to put in into type and ask for some advice. Thats where you guys come in.
Staying in Vermont
Pros
1. I have my own apartment. No need to close the bathroom door. Very nice.
2. I get to stay with the Kids. Major pluses.
3. I dont have to move ALL my shit... AGAIN!
4. Independance from my parents.
5. The feeling of knowing that I did it all by myself.
Cons
1. Apartment is in severe disrepair, and will prolly fall apart during the winter.
2. Rent is really high. (800/month)
3. The line between friend and employer is starting to get blurry at work, making it hell.
4. College is available but more expensive.
5. Dont know anyone. Very lonely.
6. Im in the boonies! I dont really like Vermont!
7. Job does not provide insurance (which I will need in about 6 months)
8. Im not happy in Vermont.
Moving to Connecticut
Pros
1. Im with two of my best friends, Jessi and Sarah, from high school. Not to mention lots of other people who show up occasionally.
2. I can rent my parent's apartment for prolly around 400/month allowing me to SAVE MONEY!
3. House is on a circle, allowing me to ride my bike, and therefore lose weight.
4. Wont be as lonely.
5. Paraproffesional jobs in CT do not require an Associates degree. (Im sending out resumes tomorrow)
6. I can go back to therapy. There are some things that I have come to realize while Ive been up here that I really need to work on.
7. College is MUCH cheaper, easier to get into, and better. Because I would be in-state.
8. No longer in the middle of no where.
Cons
1. Feels like a huge step backwards.
2. Lose some privacy. Damn Jewish Mother.
3. Wont get to see the kids as often.
4. Dana will be really pissed.
5. Have to start over. New Job. New Apartment. New Classes.
Looking at this list... it seems so obvious. But when Im at work, I feel like Im abandoning the kids. My mind changes every ten minutes or so. Damn life changing decisions! Please help me! Tell me what I should do!!!!!
Gnight Everyone.... please help me with my dilema!
Much love to you all,
Kate
July 16 2005, 11:37:39 UTC 6 years ago
It's not an easy choice
However, once moving in with your parents, going to school, you can always eventually get enough grants and loans to get an off campus apartment, they are usually not too expensive. Get a part time job if you want to get your own place again.It is always hard to move, people will always be pissed, employers will always miss you, but if you aren't happy, sacraficing your well being is never a reason to stay anywhere. You have to get to a place where your own two feet feel solid in order for you to feel stable and strong.
I live in CT so if you move here and ever need something just send a yell out my way. I'll be going over to Tunxis this year.
Hugs and good luck with whatever choice you make. I know black and white it always looks easy but the heart always makes decision making hard.
celeste
July 16 2005, 11:39:04 UTC 6 years ago
Emotionally: because you always have you friends there to talk to and to be around.
Physically: Vermont kinda sucks dude... well so does Connecticut... but Connecticut sucks a lot less.
Stones
July 16 2005, 20:20:56 UTC 6 years ago
July 16 2005, 20:36:24 UTC 6 years ago
July 17 2005, 15:35:51 UTC 6 years ago
8. Im not happy in Vermont.
July 18 2005, 17:14:30 UTC 6 years ago
Period.
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